From Dinajpur to Dhaka: Adapting to a new city

September 12, 2024

Living in one city since your birth and then moving to a different city was never easy whether its one's choice or not, specially when you are moving alone, leaving your whole family behind. And yes obviously the same goes for me. Though it took me time to realize how things have changed a lot and both pluses and minuses are present in it, but at the end of the day it is what I choose for myself. I have to work on the path to make sure my choice is doing benefits to me. However, moving to the main point, this journey of mine has crossed almost 8 months and the reason of my writing is to share some experiences.

 

 It was 16th of January, the day I came to Dhaka with my ammu. Not that it was my first time travelling from Dinajpur to all these 329.8 km but of course the first time coming here with my a made up mind of settling here for the next four to five years. There was a mix of emotions working at that time but can't say I was sad. Though wasn't happy of course because it was only ammu who came with me and abbu stayed there. Classes were happened to start  on 22nd of January. I stayed at a relatives house till 20th and then went to hostel at Badda near my university, BRAC University. Can't ignore that I was a little emotional that day but in the upcoming month I realized that settling is more hard than leaving the close ones behind.                                       

There is no trouble of travelling any more distance daily because the place I am staying is just in a walking distance from my university. Also I am not the only one from Dinajpur to come to Dhaka for study purpose. But soon I got my head thinking the fact that from then on I had to maintain my daily doings by my own without any guardian present before me to guide me. And the its true that even after 8 months I still most of the times fail to maintain my set up goals. On the other hand, it obviously didn't take any time to realize I can do whatever I want. No one is there to judge me or stop me. And that's what I pointed out earlier as the pluses and minuses. But doing the right one and taking it as the pluses in this path is what I go for the first. 

Still there were a lot of the time alongside the study when I enjoyed living in Dhaka and tried to look at the bright sides to build up a rightful future for me.  

Letting myself into a circle of people was the thing that mostly helped me to adjust in this crowded city. I think it is what it is, the destiny. Moving here, making my life busy with a everyday university journey, sometimes going to the relatives house, sometimes going out with friends, what more can happen in a girls life who is in her early 20's and studying from different city.